You can create your dream life and choose what you see fit for your lifestyle. Do you ever find yourself being pulled between what you want and what others want?
Have you found yourself agreeing to things even when they don’t align with your own lifestyle just to be accommodative?
Do you care too much about what other people think? Let’s get into how you can improve the quality of your life by living life for yourself.
Many people argue that this is a very egotistical way of living, which is not far from the truth. The fact remains that you need to put yourself first if you want to make others happy.
It’s a healthy and important way of life, the journey won’t be easy learning to put yourself first after years of living life for others will be challenging but I am glad you are here. As I always say, self-awareness is the first step to unlearning years of people pleasing.
A lot of us started life living for our parents, getting validation from them and those around us. This is because we crave love and acceptance, which is understandable but over time you need to find love and approval from within yourself.
Evolving digitally is here to guide you as you start your journey to finding internal love and validation within yourself. Before we get into the tips to help you live for yourself, let’s clarify what living for yourself means.
Living for yourself means creating the life you want for yourself, regardless of what others think. It’s living a life you’re happy with, a life you enjoy, and a life you’re proud of.
Living for others entails wanting to please others, seeking external validation and approval, and caring about what others think of you and your lifestyle choices. When you choose to be there for others, do it because it’s coming from an authentic place, not because you are obligated or expected to.
Take back control of your life and make your future self proud. Here are 6 ways to help you get started.
Know yourself and what is important to you.
First things first, need to know what is important for your lifestyle foundations and always remember your brain knows so much from your past experiences, you need to put yourself out there meet new people, and start defining what makes you happy
You might not be confident with your inner voice because you need to try out different perspectives on life. Don’t limit yourself to what you know now. Be audacious
Stop swimming in the sea of negativity.
Overthinking has held me back from a lot of things. It made me look at things as scarier than they actually are, and because of self-doubt, I talked myself out of it all.
Break free from the traditional view of life and what is socially acceptable. Stop thinking too much about what other people have to say; most of the time they are thinking about their own problems and challenges.
You are not the main character in everyone’s story.
Set your own standards
This is the best decision I’ve ever made to live a happy and fulfilling life. There are a lot of socially acceptable standards the world wants you to conform to; don’t fall into that trap.
We are all trying to figure this life thing out; even those who came before us are trying their best. You have the freedom to choose the life you want for yourself, but society is working so hard to keep you trapped.
What kind of life do you want to live? What does a fulfilling life look like for you? Put yourself out there and learn. It is completely different for everyone. We all value different things in life. Keep in mind that if you set your standards low, you will be shying away from your fullest potential.
Stop getting stuck in the past or in the future.
This means accepting yourself for where you are in this moment. Getting stuck in the past means wishing you could go back and change something, which will never happen.
Getting stuck in the future leads to a lot of worries and nightmares. Instead, you need to learn to live in the present. Life will be way more fun because you will have time to enjoy the simple pleasures of life.
Lead a life that aligns with your own standards and values.
When you clearly know what you want and the values that align with the lifestyle you are creating for yourself, The next step is to live aligned with those values
This means creating a life according to your own definition of success and happiness, staying true to those values, and focusing your energy on what matters most to you.
When you do this, you begin to approve of yourself and cultivate self-love, self-confidence, and authenticity in your own life. This is the end of seeking validation and acceptance from others.
Remember what you wanted to get out of this; keep focusing on progress over perfection.
Keep growing and knowing yourself.
At the beginning of 2022, I had no social life, and I mean absolutely zero. I would barely hang out or even learn about people’s perceptions of life.
You always have a choice of staying in your comfort zone because of social anxiety and being socially awkward or putting yourself out there and finding your tribe.
I am proud to say the best thing I did in 2022 was to network and make new friends, and my journey has been amazing.
When you choose to live life for yourself, you are responsible for all of your life choices; you don’t get a chance to blame others. Keep in mind that you pursue happiness and also some unpleasant but necessary parts of life.
To live a full and proud life, you must step outside of your comfort zone and often do things that scare you. Don’t be boring, be audacious
Conclusion
As you evolve in life, your standards evolve too. Living a life for yourself means living a life of freedom, responsibility, and fulfillment. You are the artist of your life, you have the full power to lead your life in any direction you want.
Keep choosing you.
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